The Road not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveller,long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;



Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,



And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.



I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.



-Robert Frost

Im sure your wondering why I posted this poem. Well Im a firm believer in the message that Robert Frost was trying to make here.

Ok I’m not a perfect parent and I don’t pretend to be. I do know that our job as parents is to raise our children to become better people then ourselves. If you as a parent, notice your child struggling, wouldn’t you then try to understand and help encourage improvement? I strongly believe that the problem with today’s youth is that we’re not paying as much attention as we should. In doing so, we do not understand the full scope of a childs issues and how to address them. My son will be a better man if I can encourage him to better himself, and never fall through the cracks of a mediocre society.

Psychology is not just about crazy people and shock therapy. Psychology is about understanding the nature of the mind. How are you to understand your child’s needs, if you don’t have a full understanding of what’s going on in their head. Nobody is perfect. Not everyone has the time with such demanding work schedules to pay attention to a child’s little mind. Truthfully some kids need more encouragement then others. But some of them might periodically need a nudge. My recommendation to you is to have an open mind. Don’t be afraid to admit you might in fact be wrong. Be the encouraging parent at events. Get involved! Ask lots of questions! Our minds are indeed sponges, we are constantly learning. Yes, from our mistakes too. A child’s social event is not so much for socializing as it is for watching them learn and grow. Be there for support and encouragement should they need it! Thanks for listening.

J. Ryba 29July2010

To those of you who know me it should be no surprise that I am somewhat of a people watcher. “Though often a casual hobby, it can be used formally as a means for sociological, anthropological or psychological research.” Also known as naturalistic observation. I’ve worked in the public for a number of years, as both a correction Officer, and as a Bouncer at a local night club. Not to mention working at a few retail stores in the area. This has given me plenty of opportunity to observe a number of different personality types, as well as how people act and react as a group. You can learn a lot from just stepping back and observing someone in their natural state.
I could go on all night describing these situations but one thing has been plaguing my thoughts for months, Cell Phones. Although cell phones were created to make modern life more convenient, they’re actually beginning to interfere in the lives of users who don’t know when to turn them off. It’s not so much talking on the phone that’s typically the problem although that can have consequences too, It’s this need to be connected, to know what’s going on and be available to other people. That’s one of the hallmarks of cell phone addiction.
Unlike addictions to alcohol, drugs or even gambling, it can be hard to pinpoint problematic cell phone use. Almost everyone has a cell phone and uses it regularly. But if someone can’t get through dinner without sending a text message, I think it may be time to take a step back. How people respond to being separated from their cell phones is another clue. Frequent users often become anxious when they are forced to turn off the phone or if they forget it at home, so much so that they can’t enjoy whatever they’re doing.
Cell phone addiction really becomes problematic for a lot of people if they have underlying anxiety or depression. This can really exacerbate it or cause their symptoms to manifest themselves. For example, someone who already worries about what others think of them could become easily agitated if their phone calls or messages aren’t returned right away. The problem isn’t getting any better. Studies reveal that children with cell phones often don’t make friends with their less tech-savvy peers, and that three-fourths of children have mobile phones, and lastly that 36 percent of college students say they could not get by without cell phones.
I can recall the days when cell phones didn’t exist. We actually had to work to get others attention, i.e. Walk to a pay phone or use your home phone to get in touch with someone. You actually had more face to face interaction with someone. I recall one occasion sitting in a local restaurant with my son. I observed a young couple sitting down eating there meal. Neither one of them really shared a valued conversation. They were too busy texting who ever. This is a problem with personal interaction. I find no value in interacting with someone when there to busy texting someone or constantly looking at their cell phone. Wouldn’t you like to be able to share a valued conversation with someone without the distraction? I know I would.

Good Morning Beautiful

A beautiful spring morning
The bright sunshine
The mild breeze
The fragrance of melting snow
birds whistling the sounds of spring
Fascination of the beauty of a new day
the feelings of
Appeal
Attraction
The magic, she makes me feel
With every labored breath
My heart did skip
At the very sight
of
Your resplendent green eyes
pleasing red lips
Waving long brown hair
I cant help my feelings
the feelings of
happiness, pleasure, the complete euphoria
Of things

The Unsolved Problem?

I often sit and wonder about the problems we face everyday. In everyone's life, We have problems to solve. Whether it be… Bills, work, family or even relationships.

Even in the strongest relationship, there are problems to overcome. We often find it easy to give up when confronted with these problems and difficulties.

Or fool ourselves into believing that perfection can be found somewhere else.

But true happiness and a lasting relationship are found when you look inside yourself for solutions to the problems. Instead of blaming the other person and walking away when things get tough, Look for compromise and forgiveness. Caring is not a matter of convenience. It is a commitment of one soul to another. And if we generously give ourselves to the other person. Then both lives are enriched. The problems will come and go, just like the changing seasons. But unselfish love is constant and everlasting.

True To Yourself

Believe in your heart
Something wonderful is about to happen
Love your life
Believe in your own powers
Your own potential, and in your own internal goodness
Wake every morning with the awe of just being alive.
Discover each day as magnificent
Explore and embrace life in yourself and in everyone you see each day
Reach within to find your own Individuality
Amaze yourself and galvanize those around you to the potential of each new day
Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect; this is the substance of your humanity
Let those who love you help you
Trust enough to be able to take
Look with hope to the horizon of today, for today is all we truly have
Live this day to the fullest extent
Let a little sun out as well as in
Create your own rainbows
Be open to all your possibilities
All possibilities and Miracles
Believe in Miracles

Melancholy Or Phlegmatic

That seems to be the question at this early hour. So yeah I cant sleep, I'm full of thought and I'm listening to music. Its been a trying week. But what would one expect. After all if it were easy then everyone would enlist. And we all know we have allot of cowards among us. So anyway I'm going off on a bit of a tangent from what I was originally posting about. So I'm thinking about personalities, and under what category I would fall under. Although I see myself as more Phlegmatic, and possibly Melancholic. Would it necessarily be a bad thing if I was a little Sanguine as well? Basically I'm a melting pot of many personality types. Boiled all into one genuine personality. Specific just to me... Now how do you see yourself?